As a White Perfectionist you value perfection above all else. You are a true visionary with the ability to see what others cannot, and the self-discipline required to put in the hard work necessary to make things happen for your clients. Your integrity and wisdom can bring clarity and guidance to a confused world and you can be fearless when acting in the interests of improving life for others. You are not afraid to act according to your strong convictions, even if your actions go against what others believe. You have a special gift for teaching, enjoy helping people to learn and improve and you want to be accurate, thorough, fair and objective. These traits mean that you are already a good coach, but this journey is about you stepping up, being fully visible, and doing soul centric work with your clients and in the world.
Below is your map for the journey...
How does my map work?
Your map is a visual device that enables you to recognise and relax your unconscious and egoic ways of coping, defending and protecting yourself. When used as a practice it enables you to transform your egoic patterns setting you free to live your larger calling in the world.
The outer layers of your map show you first-hand your everyday patterns of defense and armoured ways of hiding, whilst the centre of your map shows you who you really are.
Your true self is, for the most part, blocked or buried under the overwhelm of modern day life. Connecting with this aspect of who you are will enable you to be visible in the world and visible to your clients. At the core of the White Perfectionist is the quality of Wholeness.
Your journey to doing soul centric work
As a White Perfectionist, you don your armour and limit your reach when you feel that you may be doing anything imperfectly, or that you may be making a mistake. You want to know what is considered appropriate and you tend to do things by the book. Continuously striving for self-improvement, you expect others to do the same. You need to know what is expected of you so that you can act accordingly and so that you can excel. You have a strong internal critic that constantly reminds you of what you should and shouldn’t do. You always act in accordance with your high standards and moral self-justifications. You prefer what is practical, grounded and stable and avoid appearing silly or frivolous to others. Your tendencies toward perfectionism mean you can become obsessive, self-critical and cause yourself a great deal of inner anxiety and unnecessary stress, particularly when you become obsessed with detail which can bring the added problem of losing sight of your goal.
In relation to your work in the world, this means that you:
Find it difficult to start your work in the world because you fear getting things wrong.
Tend to be risk-averse.
Perfect things and then perfect things and then perfect things again!
Struggle to feel good enough with an overactive inner critic.
Take your work too seriously.
Set incredibly high standards for yourself and those who work alongside you.
In a coaching relationship this could mean that you often find yourself:
Worrying about doing things the right way.
Being self-critical if things are not going well, or just being self-critical.
Judging your clients for not making progress in line with your standards.
Overstretching your clients.
Repressing your feelings about the coaching relationship.
Becoming overly critical.
How can your map help?
When you use your map as a practice you naturally…
Relax the need to get things absolutely 'right' in order to move your work and your clients forward.
Soften your tendency to set unrealistic standards for yourself (and your clients.)
Loosen your grip on your harsh self-judgements about your performance as a coach.
Accept where you and your clients are on their journey.
Feel a profound serenity throughout your whole body while you do your work.
Free yourself from excessive thought and analysis about your work and in your coaching sessions.
Develop more ease and flow in your life and in your sessions.
Act intuitively and from the heart knowing exactly what is needed in the moment.
Open up and allow yourself to be seen by your clients.
Connect deeply with your clients so your presence does the heavy lifting of transformation.
Take your first step and try it out...
Below is a short guide on how to use your map. Inside it contains a fuller description of who you are, a brief introduction on how to use the map in your daily life, and a copy of your map. Once you have looked at the guide you might like to try the guided meditation. You will need your map open in front of you, so we suggest you keep the guide open on your laptop.
Download your free map & guide for the White Perfectionist
Once you have had sight of your map you might also like to try a free guided meditation...
If you are feeling called to this adventure then we have lots of opportunities for you to discover more and many ways you can join us.
The easiest way is to join us on facebook. This is the where all the chatter happens. It would be lovely to see you there. Other offerings include...
"The My Map to Freedom Box set" a book and full-scale copy of your map
This box set contains a copy of 'How to Live Unleashed and Alive' by Jane Douglas and a full-scale full-colour copy of your map!
"The Visible Coach' our bi-annual two-day workshop
This workshop has been designed specifically for experienced coaches or helping professionals who are being called to step out into the world and share who they are, or are being called to do deeper work with their clients but don't know how to do it. It will teach you how to use the map on your own journey to becoming a visible coach PLUS it will teach you the basics of how to use the map with your clients
"The My Map Experience" a one to one coaching journey
This intensive face to face coaching experience has been designed for coaches and helping professionals who wish to take a deep dive into the work of becoming visible in the world and for 'seekers' who are looking for the next step on their spiritual journey.
Become a Certified My Map Practitioner
This programme equips you with all the skills and resources you need to deliver 'The My Map Experience' to your clients. This is for helping professionals who wish to make My Map to Freedom a substantial part of the work they do with their clients.