The reason you are already a good coach is because you value love and affection above all else, and as such you have a warm, sociable and enthusiastic personality. You are demonstrative, friendly, and exceptionally gifted at creating and maintaining relationships, even with the most difficult people. You want to be liked and are always ready to be helpful or offer a friendly compliment. As a good listener, you can focus on the needs and concerns of others and are happy to show your giving and generous nature by helping them. With high levels of emotional intelligence, you are emotionally astute, soft-hearted and sympathetic, and always seem to notice when someone feels sad or is in distress. Yes, you are already a good coach, this journey is about stepping up to the next level and becoming a Soul Centric Coach...
Here is your map for the journey
What is the map and why do I need it?
Your map is actually a physical map that you can hold in your hands which gives you the psychological understanding needed to become a Soul Centric Coach.
The outer layers of your map show you first-hand your everyday patterns of defence and armoured ways of being, whilst the centre of your map shows you the deepest aspect of who you are. The part of you that is undefended and free.
This aspect of who you are is for the most part blocked or buried, but is what you must access if you are to become a soul centric coach.
At the core of you is the essential quality of Love.
How does it work?
Our clients are exposed to many gurus encouraging then to be authentic, courageous and true to themselves. They tell them they need to live in the now, detach from their thoughts or let go. There is so much about the what to do, but not many of these gurus teach them the how.
The My Map Method is your opportunity to learn and use a method that literally shows your clients the how. You will be able to hold the map to this journey in your hands and learn how it can bring you and your clients, fulfilment, peace, joy and freedom.
The map shows us highly specific psychological and spiritual insights into the ways we armour ourselves in patterns of thinking, acting and feeling that stop us being authentic, true to ourselves and live in the now.
But before using The My Map Method to work with your clients you must first tread the path yourself, if you are going to ask you clients to drop their armour you must drop your armoured ways of being and take a Soul Centric approach.
Taking a Soul Centric Approach is about not only learning how the map works but also about applying it in your practice. This requires you to learn The My Map Method.
Your journey to becoming a Soul Centric Coach
As an Orange Helper, your journey to becoming a Soul Centric Coach is concerned with the ways you ensure you always remain liked. Because of your unconscious fear of being unloved, you will often believe that you are the only one who sees and can give people what they need. In an effort to have your needs met, you may promise more than you can deliver or deliver more than you promise. Unconsciously, you may feel needy and want to be taken care of by others and can become emotional, sullen or overly dramatic, suffering from psychosomatic illnesses.
Whilst you are friendly, upbeat and want to be considered a ‘special’ friend you can get in your own way by overdoing your focus on shapeshifting to please others. Skilled at going out of your way to notice what is needed, you feel motivated when others acknowledge your efforts and express their appreciation, but you can be so focused on others that you don’t pay attention to your own unmet needs and feelings. Because you can’t help imagining that people are as sensitive to criticism as you are you may sugar-coat or shade the truth out of fear of hurting someone. Whilst you may believe that your giving nature is unconditional if you dig deep enough you will discover that you have a habit of strategic giving. Giving to make people feel indebted to you.
In a coaching relationship, this could mean that you often:
Promise more than you can deliver.
Appear overly friendly and cheery.
Sugar-coat or shade the truth out of fear of hurting someone.
Say what you think your client wants to hear in order to please them.
Feel de-motivated and angry if clients don't appreciate your efforts.
Avoid putting boundaries in place because you feel much more comfortable giving than receiving.
Offer more of yourself than is healthy in an unconscious desire to make people feel indebted to you.
What does becoming a Soul Centric Coach mean for an Orange Helper?
By using your map, you will reconnect with the love at the core of who you are. This will mean you will naturally feel more;
Energetic - because you have transformed your usual desire to give away too much of your time and energy to your clients.
Empowered - because you will be able to express your boundaries.
Authentic - because you will tell the truth rather than sugar coating messages that are difficult for your clients to hear.
Humility - because you will easily be able to admit when you are wrong.
Accepting - because you will no longer be resentful towards people do not appreciate your efforts.
Trusting - because you will know you presence is all that matters and who you are is enough.
Alive - because you will live more fully in the moment rather being excessively worried about your clients.
Peaceful - because you will drop the need to be your clients 'best' friend.
Try it out...
Below is a short guide on how to use your map. Inside it contains a fuller description of who you are, a brief introduction on how to use the map in your daily life, and a copy of your map. Once you have looked at the guide you might like to try the guided meditation, you will need your map open in front of you, so we suggest you keep the guide open on your laptop.
Download your free map & guide for the Orange Helper
Once you have had sight of your map you might also like to try a free guided meditation...
My Map to Soul Centric Coaching
A learning programme designed to enable you to become a Soul Centric Coach
This exclusive programme has been designed specifically for you if you are an experienced coach or helping professional whose next step on your journey is calling you to elevate your skills to the next level. It has a very focussed mission. To show you how you can use My Map to Freedom as a device to tap into your Soul Centric Presence.
Using the map as a tool to tap into your Soul Centric Presence means you will be able to:
Feel confident and sure-footed in your journey as a helping professional because you have a practice which enables you to respond rather than react to your clients
Create the kind of space where meaningful inner work is invited and encouraged
Simply be present for your clients rather than feeling obliged to find answers and fix things
Trust and believe that you and your clients will get lasting results
Travel with your clients as far and as deep as they want to go.
Notice when you are being ‘triggered’ by your clients, and know how to return to ‘centre’
Transform your own patterns of closure and defence so you ‘show up’ as someone beyond your role
Co-create genuine working relationships