How do I show up and live my calling?
As self-employed coaches, helping professionals and thought leaders you have probably embarked on many a quest to get your message out there and reach the people you want to serve. You have probably been advised that to grow your business and attract your tribe the first thing you need to do is market yourself. The chances are you have spent a small fortune seeking all sorts of advice, getting nowhere fast, and just like everyone else who is spending so much time and effort 'marketing' themselves you end up part of the crowd - just adding to the noise. Unnoticed by the people you want to reach. Invisible.
The inner and outer game of living your calling.
There are two aspects to living your calling, there is the inner game and the outer game. The outer game is concerned with marketing skills and expertise, and whilst this knowledge is essential it is not the place to start your journey to living your calling. To get your message heard by those you want to serve you need to start on your inner game.
Inner game work is an act of immense bravery that requires you to move out from behind the mask of your conditioned ways of being and show up. It is both a spiritual quest and a journey of inner healing.
There is a direct relationship between your willingness and readiness to show up and be visible in the world and the amount of transformation and healing you have to do first. Until you have done the inner work needed, no amount of marketing skills are going to attract the people you want to serve. Why? Because whether you admit it or not, you will be too frightened.
"Showing up in the world requires you to drop your conditioned ways of avoiding, conforming and pretending. It is a human act of immense bravery and vulnerability that requires you to stay in full contact with fear itself."
My Map to Freedom is first and foremost a method for learning to recognise your conditioned ways of avoiding and hiding from the immediacy of life and as a practice, it enables you to show up as an authentic presence in the world. It is your map for living your calling.
The journey to living your calling is unique to you.
Everyone knows that your personality type determines the ways you act, think and to some extent feel, but what is less commonly known is that your personality type also shapes the way you hide and avoid showing up in the world.
Your personality traits are in fact well-conditioned patterns of behaviour that keep you safe and hidden in an overwhelming world. When you don the armour of your personality traits you are hiding, acting out of fear and playing out a much smaller version of who you are.
You do not have to spend years struggling before you awaken to the truth of who you really are and come out of hiding. You are entitled to allow flow and freedom into your life now. But if you are to allow yourself to come out of hiding and be real you must first learn how to recognise the specific ways your personality type avoids staying in contact with life. Your map will help you uncover your default and invisible operating systems that are secretly ensuring you stay invisible by presenting a pale imitation image of who you really are. When you use your map as a daily practice you will finally comprehend the devastating impact that your conditioned and egoic ways of hiding have on your capacity to get your work out into the world. Once you bring what is hidden into your awareness you will find the courage to step out and step up.
There are nine maps, one for each personality type and one of them is yours. Your map is a visual device that when used as a practice enables you to recognise and relax the specific ways you avoid showing up in the world.
Your first step to being visible is to find your map...
Choose one of the following statements that best applies to you ...
A, B or C
I feel at my best when... I retreat into my inner world, withdraw from others and think things through
I feel at my best when... I work hard, serve others and do what should be done
I feel at my best when... I put myself out there, fix problems, and make things happen
Again, choose one of the following statements below, either 1, 2 or 3
Others would say that I react to life's struggles by... remaining objective and that I tend to detach from issues in order to find a logical plan
Others would say that I react to life's struggles by... being optimistic and that I tend to push issues aside in order to move forward
Others would say that I react to life's struggles by... being assertive and that I tend to escalate issues in order to bring about direct action