As an Orange Helper, you value love and affection above all else, and as such you have a warm, sociable and enthusiastic personality. You are demonstrative, friendly, and exceptionally gifted at creating and maintaining relationships, even with the most difficult people. You want to be liked and are always ready to be helpful or offer a friendly compliment. As a good listener, you can focus on the needs and concerns of others and are happy to show your giving and generous nature by helping them. With high levels of emotional intelligence, you are emotionally astute, soft-hearted and sympathetic, and always seem to notice when someone feels sad or is in distress. These traits mean that you are already good at what you do, but this journey is about you stepping up and being fully visible in the world.
Below is your map for the journey.
How does my map work?
Your map is a visual device that enables you to recognise and relax the ways you avoid being visible so you can show up in the world.
The outer layers of your map show how your inborn personality traits have become conditioned and fear driven ways of avoiding showing up in the world. The centre of your map points a specific quality that describes who you are beyond your fear based conditioning. In the case of the Orange Helper who you are beyond your conditioning is described as the quality of Love.
Learning to use your map enables you to heal and transform your patterns of closure and defence and re-connect you with the 'real' you at the centre of the map.
Please click on the image of your map to save it to your desktop.
Your journey to living your calling
As an Orange Helper, you avoid being seen and thereby sabotage your efforts to take your work into the world any time there is a chance you will not be liked or loved. Because of your unconscious fear of being unloved, you will often adopt ways of behaving that ensure you are liked and loved. For example, you may promise more than you can deliver or deliver more than you promise.
Whilst you are friendly, upbeat and want to be considered a ‘special’ friend you can get in your own way by overdoing your focus on shapeshifting to please others. Skilled at going out of your way to notice what is needed, you feel motivated when others acknowledge your efforts and express their appreciation, but you can be so focused on others that you don’t pay attention to your own unmet needs and feelings. Unconsciously, you may feel needy and want to be taken care of by others and can become emotional, sullen or overly dramatic, suffering from psychosomatic illnesses. Because you can’t help imagining that people are as sensitive to criticism as you are you may sugar-coat or shade the truth out of fear of hurting someone. Whilst you may believe that your giving nature is unconditional if you dig deep enough you will discover that you have a habit of strategic giving. Giving to make people feel indebted to you.
In relation to showing up in the world, this means that you:
Lose track of your mission by putting others first.
Get scared of putting yourself 'out there' because you want to be liked by everyone.
Over promise on your offers.
Get run down by not putting your needs first.
Over give on your time without charging for it.
Rarely if ever ask for help and support from others.
In a coaching relationship, this could mean that you often:
Promise more than you can deliver.
Appear overly friendly and cheery.
Sugar-coat or shade the truth out of fear of hurting someone.
Say what you think your client wants to hear in order to please them.
Feel de-motivated and angry if clients don't appreciate your efforts.
Avoid putting boundaries in place because you feel much more comfortable giving than receiving.
Offer more of yourself than is healthy in an unconscious desire to make people feel indebted to you.
Coming out of hiding means having a practice that enables you to recognise these patterns of behaving, thinking and feeling in the moment and transform them by connecting with your true self. Coming out of hiding is a moment to moment commitment.
How will my map help?
By using your map as a practice you will naturally feel more:
Energetic - because you have transformed your usual desire to give away too much of your time and energy to your clients.
Empowered - because you will be able to express your boundaries.
Authentic - because you will tell the truth rather than sugar-coating messages that are difficult for your clients to hear.
Humility - because you will easily be able to admit when you are wrong.
Accepting - because you will no longer be resentful towards people who do not appreciate your efforts.
Trusting - because you will know your presence is all that matters and who you are is enough.
Alive - because you will live more fully in the moment rather than being excessively worried about your clients.
Peaceful - because you will drop the need to be your client's 'best' friend.
Offerings for when you know us better!
"The My Map to Freedom Box set" is a book and full-scale copy of your map
This box set contains a copy of the book 'How to Live Unleashed and Alive' by Jane Douglas and a full-scale full-colour copy of your map!
"From Coach to Soul Centric Coach' is our bi-annual two-day workshop
This workshop has been designed specifically for experienced coaches or helping professionals who are being called to step out into the world and share who they are or are being called do deeper work with their clients but don't know how to do it. It will teach you how to use the map on your own journey to becoming a visible coach PLUS it will teach you the basics of how to use the map with your clients.
"The My Map Experience" is a one to one coaching journey
This intensive face to face coaching experience has been designed for coaches and helping professionals who wish to take a deep dive into the work of becoming visible in the world and for 'seekers' who are looking for the next step on their spiritual journey.
Become a Certified My Map Practitioner
This programme equips you with all the skills and resources you need to deliver 'The My Map Experience' to your clients. This is for helping professionals who wish to make My Map to Freedom a substantial part of the work they do with their clients.
Your next step...
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all intended to support you in coming out of hiding, showing up and being visible in the world so that you can get your message out and live your calling.
This is a developing resource and is where we would love your comments and discussion, questions and thoughts and where we will also be sharing offers that will help you as your journey progresses.
So, why not join the growing number of coaches, helping professionals, thought leaders and those who simply want to show up and do big work in the world who are using their maps every day.
All the resources on this page are free so you have nothing to lose and I would be honoured to serve you in your quest to come out of hiding!
with warmest wishes
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