As a Blue Loyal Guardian, you value safety and security above all else, and for your clients, you represent a steadfast and dependable source of support. You possess an endearing childlike reactivity and often take the position of the Devil’s advocate which is useful to challenge your clients' thinking. Your keen sense of scepticism is extremely useful in sniffing out untruths in your clients' stories and you can be extremely accurate in your assessment of what is going on. To determine if someone is being authentic, you watch for and question any discrepancy you observe. Your client values you as someone who is deeply committed and loyal. These traits mean that you are great at what you do, but this journey is about you stepping up, being fully visible in the world.
Below is your map for the journey.
How does my map work?
Your map is a visual device that enables you to recognise and relax the ways you avoid being visible so you can step out as an authentic presence in the world.
The outer layers of your map show how your inborn personality traits have become conditioned and fear driven ways of avoiding showing up in the world. The centre of your map points a specific quality that describes who you are beyond your fear based conditioning. In the case of the Blue Loyal Guardian who you are beyond your conditioning is described as the quality of Trust.
Learning to use your map enables you to heal and transform your patterns of closure and defence and re-connect you with the 'real' you at the centre of the map.
Please click on the image of your map to save it to your desktop.
Your journey to being visible
As a Blue Loyal Guardian, you avoid being visible and don your mask any time you are feeling unsupported or insecure. Your journey to being visible is concerned with the ways you ensure you remain secure and supported. At your core, you feel uncertain and insecure. This insecurity leads to a heavy reliance on structures, systems, and traditions and at an unconscious level you worry that the source of your support will abandon you. This manifests in generalised paranoia, suspicion, and scepticism. Lack of faith in your own authority can cause you to overly submit to or challenge others, including your clients in a coaching session. You are highly motivated to avoid disappointing your clients which means you may find yourself proceeding with so much caution that progress is too slow or ineffective. Afraid of fear, submission, and cowardice, you vacillate between loyalty and rebelliousness by puffing up and backing down. You fear anything unproven or radical. Your greatest fear, however, is of being alone and unsupported. When you are afraid, you doubt your own authority and can become provocative and undermining. Your judgement and fear can keep you from taking action and make it hard for you to trust yourself and others.
In relation to your work in the world, this means that you:
Overly rely on others to support you.
Find it hard to trust yourself and look to others for validation.
Play things cautiously and slowly.
Get anxious about stepping out into the world.
Tend to stay mainstream because it feels safe.
Lose faith in your own message.
In your one to one work, this could mean that you often find yourself:
Overly preparing for coaching sessions.
Setting strict rules of conduct through the coaching relationship.
Disabling clients by 'over supporting' them.
Keeping emotional distance from clients through professional armour.
Feeling that you are 'not enough' or' not good enough'.
Becoming sceptical about your clients' motivations and intentions.
Having hidden expectations of loyalty and diligence and struggling when these expectations are not met.
The journey to getting visible means recognising and transforming these patterns of behaving, thinking and feeling so you find the space to get back to the Trust at the core of who you are.
How can my map help?
By using your map as a practice you will be able to naturally feel more:
Trusting - as you soften your usual desire to be sceptical and doubting of yourself, other people and even your clients.
Fulfilled - as you learn to 'show up' in the world and with clients, sharing your own needs and fears.
Autonomous - as you trust your own judgement rather than seeking guidance from other professionals or overusing 'techniques' and systems.
Grounded - as you develop a greater sense of your own self-worth.
Courageous - as you feel less fearful when you are unsupported in your work.
Alive - as you live more fully in the moment rather than scanning the environment for danger or things that could go wrong.
Acceptance - as you let go of resenting clients for not being committed and loyal.
Peaceful - as you let go of the need to play Devil's advocate.
Offerings for when you know us better!
"The My Map to Freedom Box set" is a book and full-scale copy of your map
This box set contains a copy of the book 'How to Live Unleashed and Alive' by Jane Douglas and a full-scale full-colour copy of your map!
"The Visible Coach' is our bi-annual two-day workshop
This workshop has been designed specifically for experienced coaches or helping professionals who are being called to step out into the world and share who they are or are being called do deeper work with their clients but don't know how to do it. It will teach you how to use the map on your own journey to becoming a visible coach PLUS it will teach you the basics of how to use the map with your clients.
"The My Map Experience" is a one to one coaching journey
This intensive face to face coaching experience has been designed for coaches and helping professionals who wish to take a deep dive into the work of becoming visible in the world and for 'seekers' who are looking for the next step on their spiritual journey.
Become a Certified My Map Practitioner
This programme equips you with all the skills and resources you need to deliver 'The My Map Experience' to your clients. This is for helping professionals who wish to make My Map to Freedom a substantial part of the work they do with their clients.
Your next step...
If you are a helping professional, thought leader, teacher or coach, or simply feel called to do deeper work in the world then I invite you to join our facebook community by clicking the facebook icon below. The community is dedicated to supporting you in getting visible in the world. If you feel called to join us it will be my honour to serve you in your quest out of hiding!
with warmest wishes
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